Being Comfortable when Meeting the In-Laws

Just when a relationship is going well the laughter, the romance, the comfort of belching in front of your partner a great shadow looms over it. This shadow - carrying a one way ticket and a months worth of luggage can only be one thing: your future in-laws.

Whether they come to visit you or you go to visit them, meeting your future in-laws for the first time can be unsettling. You want to be charming and appeasing. You want to be witty and intellectual. You want to be intelligent and intuitive. You want to be free of any giant pieces of food stuck in your teeth.

While meeting your future in-laws seems like a difficult task as if every pair of in-laws resembles the parents on Everybody Loves Raymond there are things that can be done to make a first time meeting a little less awkward and a little more comfortable.

Know Your Stuff

Before meeting your partners parents, have him or her provide you with a little Mom and Dad: 101. Learn what your future in-laws like, what they dont like, and what they are adamantly against. If your partners parents are extremely religious, or unyieldingly democratic, you should probably be given a heads up. This is merely to prevent you from saying things that you dont find offensive, but that they might. If your future in-laws are unyieldingly democratic, for instance, you might not want to reveal your Reagan Forever tattoo just yet.

Be Polite

There is a fine line between being fake and being polite. While you want to be cordial, you dont want to teeter on the brink of obvious flattery and empty compliments. Convey your politeness by using correct grammar, saying please and thank you, and offering to help set the table or mix the cake batter. However, dont be overly polite to the point that it looks like youre acting: offering to help with the dishes is one thing, offering to paint a China pattern in your future mother-in-laws image is a whole different ballgame.

Dont Pick Fights with Your Partner

When meeting your future in-laws, keep in mind that they are the parents of your partner, protective of him or her like a mother bear protects her cubs. Because of this, picking a fight with or even criticizing your partner in their presence will not end favorably for you. As you make a negative remark at your partners expense, you will find your future in-laws banding together, snapping in unison like a scene from West Side Story. Until you get to really know your future in-laws, dont try to get them on your side. You see, we build to that.

Show Interest

Your future in-laws, assuming things go well, will likely become your present in-laws. Because of this, you better become interested in them: they will become your family. So, ask about Uncle Bob or Cousin Billy. Listen intently as they talk about their grandparents or Aunt Lilas sixth wedding ceremony. Ask questions and make comments that let them know you care. Showing interest in someone, or someones family, is one of the best ways to make them interested in you.

Meeting the future in-laws can often rank near getting a tooth pulled or a mole removed on the spectrum of fun. Yet, its part of a relationship: unless you meet a partner who was raised by wolves, chances are he or she has a family. Meeting the in-laws for the first time is probably the most intimidating: it does get easier. Eventually you may find comfort in the relationship you have with your in-laws loving them, relying on them, and asking them for money.

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